Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Real Men Wear Pink

Real Men Wear Pink.  

Plenty of stereotypes exist regarding women.  They are the chef/maid/primary caregiver in a family.  They are dainty.  They are delicate.  They must love the color pink.  However, what some women do not realize is that men face equal and opposite stereotypes.  After having two baby boys, the author realized just what types of stereotypes boys face (Breedermama).  Even though she herself was a girl, she was hesitant to buy pink diapers for her son.  What makes pink a girly color (Breedermama)?  Realizing her insanity, she purchased the pink diapers – breaking the stereotype.

But was pink always associated with girls? The answer is no.  A couple centuries back, mostly in the mid to late 1800s, boys and girls actually had reversed roles.  Pink was seen as a cousin of red, a strong color symbolizing war and bloodshed, and thus associated with males (Adams 7).  On the other end of the sexual spectrum, females, wishing to emulate the Virgin Mary, dressed in blue in many of her portraits.  My favorite color has always been green – generally accepted as a masculine color for Caucasian men (Adams 11) - however, growing up I had a pink changing table and a few pink stuffed animals.  Thus, while some studies appear to show that girls gravitate towards pink because of its warmth and motherly feeling, I must add an addendum.  People in general, gravitate towards pink because of its warmth.  Boys and men are meant to separate themselves from women and thus it has become commonly usual for boys to like blue rather than pink.  However, this is a close-minded stereotype whose roots mainly stem from wars where soldiers sent off to war would wear darker colors – blues and greens – for both practical and camouflage reasons.  Slowly, but surely, the general public’s opinion on color stereotyping became more and more emphatic even rising to the classless level of labeling male homosexuals with pink in concentration camps and various other places (Adams 8).  Similarly, though on a much less severe scale, Breedermama struggled with buying her son a pink diaper, most likely afraid of other people labeling her son as a feminine boy. 

This is an old-fashioned phobia that is sneered at even by its ancient roots.  Instead of wizening up and reducing our headstrong beliefs on manliness, men are simply

perpetuating the Gender-color stereotypes that have infected each new generation like a virus.  There have been attempts made by clothing stores, Hollister and Abercrombie-like stores, to break this “color barrier,” but few strides have been made.  Everybody always looks to the past for guidance (using precedent in law, successful military campaigns as the blueprints for invasions, and even basing Olympic performances on those of past athletes) so why don’t we take a piece of our own advice and look to the past?  This is one instance where we want “history to repeat itself.”  

Friday, February 6, 2009

Diversity: Society's Rules

What makes us think that you have to be a guy to play mud football? Or you have to be a girl to play with Barbie dolls?  Society sets rules on its people based on sex.  Other than public scrutiny, there is nothing stopping you from doing things.  Your DNA is not modified at birth to say, “I am a man and I must watch football every Sunday, while eating Buffalo Wings and I must yell at the inanimate television anytime the ref makes a bad call.”  Jamaica Kincaid wrote a poem titled, Girl, in which she lays out the rules that her daughter must follow in order to become a respected female member of society.  Similarly, our class developed poems in which we laid out the rules a person must follow in order to be (in my case) Slade (below).  This is not the first blog to attempt to cover the broad topics of diversity and society's rules. Check out the links below to get a different perspective:

Slade

Everyone should call you by your last name, in fact you don’t even have a first name; if you are not acting up a little bit in class, then class is too boring; wait until the last day to do your work, but make sure you get it done and done well; work as much as you would like so you can always money in your pocket; drive well and aggressively, but not too fast, and keep an eye out for those state troopers; 87; listen to good music – that means no country or screaming; study when you have to, but don’t spend your whole life studying; hang out with your friends as much as possible and don’t do anything too stupid; eat Five Guys as much as possible (or as much as your wallet can allow); attend every basketball game you can and make sure to be wearing your Cowboy Crazies shirt; do not wake up any earlier than you absolutely have to; make sure you don’t miss 24 on Monday nights, or Entourage on Sunday nights; the owner of the nearest Chinese restaurant should know you by name; Burger King must get half their business from you; your iPod should be eclectic but specified – nothing goes on your iPod that you don’t want to ever listen to; Honey Chipotle Chicken Crispers should be a meal at least once a week; if you are not working out at least five times a week you are going to become that fatass everyone tells you that you should be; a password-locked unattended computer is a crime; if someone falls asleep, the hamsteak comes out; Your Spanish teacher’s blood pressure must be borderline heartattack; this is how to make Yada’s car smell; this is how you pass someone on the other side of the road when they are going too slow.